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Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway. Quote by Susan Jeffers

Graduating and Killing Dreams

Congrats, Grads!

My nephew just graduated from college. It’s 2020, so it doesn’t feel real. 🤷‍♀️ It might be underwhelming for him; I’m pretty sure it is for his parents, who would have loved to have the in-person event. Of course, they are still quite proud of him and his achievement.

Congratulations to all 2020 graduates! I hate that you’re not getting that closure and feeling of accomplishment that an in-person ceremony brings.

Fear & Learning

It stirs memories for me. After graduating high school excitement was replaced with fear on my third day of college classes.

My theater class required a semester-long research project. I wasn’t much of a writer. Then, we got a tour of the library. I remember throwing up in the bathroom. My high school library wasn’t much bigger than my childhood bedroom. This one was three floors plus a basement! And, microfiche and computers to find research articles? The most I had used were old encyclopedias. 🤯

I hid.

I didn’t go to that class anymore. I failed and changed my major.

Grad School

Years later, I started grad school. I took a light load, two classes. We had a really thick textbook, read three chapters a week, write short-answers for quizzes, and write a paper.

Another big fear emerged…I read really slowly. I read as if I were reading aloud. I don’t want to tell you that I got through HS without reading a book. But, I did.

In grad school my husband taught me how to skim. He was matter-of-fact about it. No judgment.

After my first quarter in grad school, I realized I had gotten As. I did it! I learned I could earn them, so I didn’t want to “lose” them. Fear again. Thankfully, I graduated with honors this time.

Lessons Learned

In my freshman year, I let a building intimidate me. Who knows where I would be if I had the same drive as I did in grad school! I’m kind of loving where I am now, but if I could go back, I’d tell myself to:

  1. Ask for help.
  2. Create a plan.
  3. Ask for help.
  4. Learn how to study.
  5. Ask for help.

Acting in Life

A few years after my BA, I took acting classes at the State Theater and private sessions with Kevin Remington and started auditioning. I landed a role with an incredible ensemble cast, where I met some of the most amazing people, including one of my best friends. When the play’s run ended, I cried. I didn’t want it to end. It was the culmination of so much more than just six weeks of rehearsals.

I had given up on it before because of a building…because of fear. I don’t want fear to stop me anymore.

Is fear stopping you?

If you look at your own life, have you let fear stop you from something you love?


“Feel the fear, and do it anyway.” (Susan Jeffers)

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